As I mentioned at the beginning of an earlier post (Peurile), part of the process of prepping for the upcoming book, “Daddy’s Doing Hair?!?!?!?” was a series of interviews with women that discussed how their relationships, or lack thereof, affected them throughout their adulthood. Some of these stories were heart wrenching, fellas…..seriously. Others, like this one, although not the textbook example that we have grown to accept as Daddyhood, (I coined that phrase myself. Cool, huh?You can use it…….for a dollar.) , it still shows how even if you can’t be there with your daughter PHYSICALLY, you can still be there for her and make a positive influence on her that will last a lifetime. Distance is NO EXCUSE!
Daddy’s Little Girl
I grew up living with my grandmother as an only child. Both of my parents lived separately in NY. I spent my school year in NC with my grandmother and a few weeks of the summer with each of my parents and my aunt. Each of them would go school shopping for me. My dad always drove me back to NC at the end of every summer with all the stuff they bought me during my summer vacation! I always thought I was so special. My daddy brought me home!!! He was a star in my eyes!
Child support wasn’t as popular back then as it is now. There was no court appointed amount that my dad had to pay. My mom told him that she didn’t need anything from him, so he did whatever he could, when he could. He sent about $100 a month to my grandmother and paid for anything I called and said I needed. Girl Scouts, Cheerleading, 4H, school trips, you name it, I did it and he paid for it! I was always proud to say my daddy sent me money!
As I got older, I promised myself, when I graduated from college, that I wouldn’t ask my dad for anything unless it had to do with major auto repair. I never asked for birthday or Christmas presents either. I stuck to my word for many years and I was very proud of that. I didn’t want him to think that I was using him for his money.
I bought my 1st home a few years ago. I asked my dad if he would help me with a few things. He said, “Don’t you worry dear, I have been saving up just for this occasion!” He took some vacation time and came to NC to help me move! He bought all of my appliances and had them delivered and installed. He also bought me an entertainment stand and put it together for me. He bought groceries and household items for my fresh start. He even fed my movers twice that weekend! I still think he’s a star! My friends love him and often ask when he’s coming back to visit. I wish we lived closer to each other. Sometime I just need a hug from my daddy…to make it all better.
He wasn’t around much for me growing up, but that’s partially my mom’s fault. He was always there in my heart! I’ve always been a daddy’s girl. Even when my mom tried to convince me otherwise, I loved him! In my eyes, he was golden and still is!
I don’t have any children, but I pray that if I have a little girl, she’ll have the same type of loving relationship with her dad as I do with mine. There’s something about a man and his baby girl! I’m a grown woman, but I’ll always be Daddy’s Little Girl!
K.B. (Raleigh, NC)